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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your birth experience is more important than the feelings of whoever else wants to be there. You need to feel safe, calm, and relaxed. You should ask your caregivers for advice on what to say, because they get this issue all the time.

I'm a MIL and a former doula, and while I would love to be present if my DIL ever has a baby, there's no way I'd want her to feel pressured to have me or anyone present, if it wasn't what felt good to her. I'd be sad to not be there, but I'm a big girl, and I know the birthing mother's feelings are what matters.

A compromise might be to have MIL wait in the next room, so she could be there, but not THERE in your hooha. :D[/quote]

I love your sentiment here, PP, but if I were the OP, I'd be very careful to have the MIL even in the next room if DH isn't absolutely strong enough to tell her no.  Given that OP won't be in a place to easily advocate for herself, MiL may be able to work her way into the delivery room.  At the very least, MIL might divert attention away from OP by even TRYING to get into the delivery room.  OP shouldn't have to worry at all that DH's attention will be diverted from her to deal with MIL.[/quote]

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