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[quote=Anonymous]As a kid I did everything I could to avoid having to work on homework with my father. He was a perfectionist with a quick temper, so if I was slow at understanding something he went from frustrated to yelling very quickly. It was intimidating, and sometimes outright scary when I was really young. In addition I almost always felt shamed when working with him (even if he was trying to be patient) because even though I was a good student and fairly smart, he was obviously smarter, knew the stuff already, and I hated feeling stupid in front of him.

I got homework help on my own, made myself as independent as possible by around 3rd grade so I never needed my parents' involvement, and as a rare last resort sometimes "forgot" homework at school if I knew I didn't know how to do it and knew he would be home early that night before I could figure it out myself.

If a kid "won't" work with one parent -- not just prefers the other, but actually tries to actively avoid one parent's help -- respect that and stop pushing it. Let the kid own the grades that result from their own choices -- if academic success isn't worth getting a particular form of assistance, there's likely a reason. Consider if there's a personality mismatch. Not all people work well together. I would advise working on strengthening the parent-child relationship in general, rather than forcing both unhappy parties through the motions.[/quote]

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