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[quote=Anonymous]I would ask her if she wants to quit the team or not.  If she wants to quit, that's fine.  You keep coaching until the end of the season.  If she doesn't want to coach, she must deal with you as the coach.  That means she is polite, she participates, or she goes and sits in the car (with no games, ipad, phone, etc) and she does nothing until she is ready to participate.  You would do that with another kid - if they weren't participating you'd expect the parent to take the kid away.  So she can have the same rules.

I think that while she is sensitive, you are encouraging that behavior by bending over backwards.  I wonder if the more you bend over backwards, the self-fulfilling prophecy?  Are you accidently giving her the idea that she CAN'T handle stuff, which is why you bend over backwards and spend more time with her vs. other sister?  Because spending time together is something that kids totally notice.

So I'd gradually dial back the speending so much time with this daughter while increasing time spent with other duaghter.

And, seriously, she can quit soccer if it's so horrible. Otherwise, she can suck it up.  I really think we are bending too much for kids now - this will not make her end up in therapy.  [/quote]

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