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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter was socially immature in what sounds like a similar way to your son. I tried asking questions. She'd tell me she bought a classmate a snack at lunch, and I'd say that was kind of her. And then I'd ask what she thought Larla would do if she hadn't bought her a snack? At first she was entirely blinded, saying the other kids would still stand in line with her and so on. But over time, as she thought about it, or maybe even tried it out a couple times, started saying that she thought Larla wouldn't talk to her if she didn't buy her a snack. Then I could ask if she thought that made Larla a friend, or just someone who wanted a snack. Again, at first she'd swear friend, but gradually seemed to begin recognizing she was just a kid who wanted a snack. At the same time, I was encouraging friendships with other kids where there really did seem to be a connection, setting up playdates and the like. I think those relationships helped give her the ability to accept that the other kids weren't really being friends. She had the ability to compare them to her real friends, and she also knew that she wasn't going to lose anything if she recognized them as not being friends. I worked hard at not saying rude things about the conniving little beasts and I think that helped too. I wasn't judging my daughter, I was trying to help her figure out her world.[/quote]

Thank you for this thoughtful response! I like the question about asking what the other person would do if you said no. We talked about how sometimes kids will take advantage if they know you are nice and too kind to say no but I like how this questioning gets them thinking about it in a different way. Thank you!

This thread has been so helpful to me.  There are no easy answers but I do feel better that we have tried many of the suggestions mentioned. I hope at some point (hopefully), he will recognize that being different is what makes him so special.  DCUM can be a very snarky place and I appreciate this forum and how helpful and understanding you all are! Thank you![/quote]

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