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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did your DD want you to be her coach? If she didn't, I'd apologize, and promise not to be her coach again, and tell her you guys just have to make it through this season. Then continue being as supportive as you can be with her while still coaching the team. Lesson learned.

If she wanted you to be her coach, remind her of that, and remind her you don't have to do it again, but that she has to pull herself together and make this work. You can be a little harder on her if she was involved in setting this situation up.

In scouts, you can get fun patches for kids when they've suffered through being a leaders kid. My children liked getting those. It didn't always make up for the times I asked them to be especially nice to the kid who was having a hard time, or otherwise depended on them in ways I wouldn't have done to another kid, but it was recognition. Maybe you and your daughter could go pick out a special soccer ball, or get matching jerseys, or something, so she can have that special connection with you even when you're sharing time with other kids?

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Apologize for being the coach?? Seriously?? Please don't do this. You're sending your kid the message that they are in charge and that they are more important than the team. While on the soccer field, they are not more important than the team.

I like a pp's idea of rewarding her with extra-parent time when she does well at practice (and tell her in advance what that means).

Your goal in parenting is to not make her your best friend, but to help her become a teen then a grownup who is flexible and resilient in life. Having her "share" you will help with that. Sympathize with her feelings, but push on.[/quote]

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