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[quote=Anonymous]^For example, my DH grew up in the Midwest, 1 of 4 kids. It was a suburb, so you could see elements of country and elements of upward/connected/high acheiving people, in the way he was raised. (I can't say country vs. city, because city there is known as poor/dangerous.)

The 4 kids are on a sliding scale of where they ended up. One sibling has a real country accent!! DH does not at all. (Dh's parents didn't grow up there so they don't have one.) another sibling none at all, and a mother sibling a little bit if an accent.

It's all about the culture, friends, goals you settle into.

So, one sibling has an accent, heavy tattoos, smokes, drinking is a major feature of the lifestyle, lives in a rambler, have non-marriage with "step kids," no retirement plan, and strongly identifies with a downhearted hillbilly culture. And DH and another sibling are in educated households, reading to kids at night, strong communication skills, can attend a $100/plate dinner (usually for work), and not bat an eye at the dress or manners required, read lots of books. Not 100% "elite" but can fit in better in the middle, upper middle class. We sometimes have a hard time being laid back enough to fit in with the hillbillies but it's possible.

For the accent sibling, it's some kind of pride, reluctance to leave, and a badge that keeps people there sometimes. YES it's the economy too. But I'm just saying other factors are friend and relationship choices, personal emphasis on education, and a desire to be in that culture or not. [/quote]

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