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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. Mom needed to have that convo with her ex. And if college for her kids was important to her, she should have been saving too.

Then she needed to have that convo with her current husband, before they married, and said she is prioritizing $xx a month for college for the kids. Either she'd work to earn it or he'd be ok with paying it.

If she hasn't done this, then don't blame the step dad. [/quote]
I have to agree with this one. The mom really needed to have that conversation. He does seem like a jerk but is the kids' bio dad paying his portion?

I look at it like this - Jack and Jill get married and they say they will be paying for their kids' college education in full. Jack and Jill divorce but they still want to pay for their kids' college education in full.

Jack marries Suzie. Suzie has two kids of her own. If Jack contributes to Suzie's kids' college education, he won't have as much money to pay for his bio kids' college.

Likewise, Jill marries David. David has two kids and those kids live with his wife. Before this, Jill saved hard so her kids wouldn't have to worry about paying college. David and his first wife didn't save anything for college, but now those kids are also thinking about college. Now David expects Jill to go into the savings she earmarked for her own children to pay a portion of his kids' college education.

So the two kids of Jack and Jill will no longer have their college paid for because even though their parents saved enough, it now has to be split 6 ways instead of 2.

Of course, every step-parent scenario differs but when there are multiple kids from the different wives/fathers involved I think it is best if you just pay for your biological kids.

Now if the step-dad doesn't have kids of his own and he's raised them since they were little, that is different.

I still think your BIL sounds like a jerk. And I also think if anything were to happen to my DH, I'm just going to wait to remarry (even if I do re-marry. The older I get, the less and less interest in remarriage I have) when my kids are grown.[/quote]

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