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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It'd be like going to the wedding reception and not attending the wedding. So yes, it's tacky to just go to the party.
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Definitely NOT a universal sentiment.  My kids in total have probably been to 50 of these.  Many invites didn't even include the time and location of the service.  We were often told that the kids weren't expected to attend.  Having said that, if they ARE invited, they should go to a few just to appreciate it, especially for the non-Jews.[/quote]

Wow, this is incredibly rude and disrespectful.

If your kid is invited and has a conflict, you or they should reach out to the host and explain the conflict and ask if it is ok to come to whatever of the service or party possible.

But to skip the service and just come to the party is total rude. Sorry, it is.[/quote]

+1.  PP is clearly thinking the party is the big deal, not realizing the child spends the better part of a year preparing for the Bnai Mitzvah.  It is ok to go to the service without going to the party, but do not RSVP to the party.  Oh, and if there is a conflict, just let the host know.  They will probably tell you it is ok.  But to assume it is ok is horrible.[/quote]

The invite is for the service and the party.  To RSVP saying you were just coming to the party is rude, inconsiderate, and wrong. If there is a conflict and your kid can't make the service but wants to come to the party then that's a totally different story ( and you need to explain that to the hosts).  But you never RSVP saying You are not coming to the service, just  coming to the party. If you intend to do that then your child doesn't come to either.  This is not just some overdone birthday party.[/quote]

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