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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you are hearing what you want to hear from your therapist.  I doubt very seriously the therapist said any of what you posted. [/quote]

Agree. And it's possible the therapist isn't so great at conveying to you how you must try and see reality through your affair fog, which is intense, like a powerful drug. I think you're on the cusp, but then you get a hit of the drug again, and it feels sooooo good. It's a tough thing to set down a drug you're hooked on, that gets you so high, and really focus on making your life better in real and positive ways. I think a better therapist would have made you understand that you have to stop taking the drug and give yourself time to let your head clear before you can see to work on your issues. No meeting up with him at all. Change jobs, if possible.

And I'll tell you this: a strong man who truly cared about YOU and wasn't mainly acting out on his selfish needs, weaknesses, and wants (like a mid-life crisis, for example), a man who was mindful and truly caring about the well-being of the kids--he would step back and let you sort your life out, and give you space to figure out what you feel is best. Real connections with solid people stand the test of time and distance. [/quote]

Thank you, this is very insightful. Yes, he feels like a drug. But also a friend I can share feelings with. We have a connection, a mutual understanding, we speak the same language of love.

The longest we were apart during these few months was four days, and it felt like torture. It was when we decided to stop and figure out what we truly wanted from our lives. I understand I was going through withdrawal and should have stuck with it. But we started talking again, and next thing I know I am in his arms. I know he is selfish in that regard. He admits it too that when he sees me he is drawn to me.

Quitting my job is not an option, unfortunately, for many reasons. Leaving for a few days is not an option either. My parents live very far, and I don't have close friends I can visit, only out if state. But yes, thinking clearly is difficult when everything reminds me of him daily.[/quote]

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