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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guy here.  Here's what I do:

- Talk to her every day even if its just about how the day went.
- Always fiscally responsible
- take on at least half of the household work such as picking up, dishes, laundry, mowing, etc.
- Play an active role in parenting.  Homework every night, swordfights, etc.
- Stay fit and attractive.
-Tell her how great she looks.[/quote]

Another guy here - we have 3 kids (teen/pre-teen) and this describes our household and my role in the household to a tee.  I also make 4-5x as DW does.  I've read books that has helped me to increase my EQ so I can truly be there for DW whenever she needs.  We always talk at some during the day and after the kids are in bed.  I plan date nights and our adult-only vacations (we jointly plan the family vacations).

My problem is that it's about what I am doing for her and there really hasn't been reciprocation.  While the thread is what else besides sex, sex (and intimacy) is a very important part of equation for me, but she doesn't seem to get this and intimacy seems to be on her terms.  Struggling as to what I can do to change this dynamic around.[/quote]

Sit down and have a talk with her.  Let her know that its imprtant to you, your marriage and your (you and her) ability to provide a happy and healthy upbringing for your kids.  Then, gain her agreement on scheduling it twice a week - Wednesday and Sunday.  On those days you'll have the kids through their routines and into bed early.

Once you start having sex, it can't be bad sex for her - that's basically torture.  If you need ED meds, get them.  If you're a 2 pump chump, talk to a doctor.  Become a virtuoso at whatever type of foreplay she likes.  If you're a fat guy, start taking better care of yourself.  If you've got bad hygene, take a shower.

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As a guy, having to schedule it sounds miserable.  So glad I'm not there....[/quote]

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