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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Divorce now. Gently and kindly.[/quote]

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Bad advice. There's nothing gentle or kind in a child's experience of having their home broken up because mom and dad can't shake themselves out of their inertia, and do some work on their marriage. It's so easy to drift apart in the difficult years of raising young kids, and so easy to just sit there in your separate rooms, not even making an earnest effort to try to reconnect with the person you once loved enough to marry and have kids with. No one has done anything terrible or unforgiveable here. You've just drifted off and disconnected, which is incredibly common. And maybe you two are not good at connecting. Please see a marriage counselor and put in the time and effort to do things together as a couple again, to remember what it was you enjoyed with each other. Spend time just lying in bed together, talking, physically close enough that the awkward wall starts to crumble, and see if at some point anyone feels a spark.  Try going out together and having new experiences. Part of what bonds couples is having fun new experiences together.

If you can do all that, and then you find you don't care for each other and don't want to be in an intimate relationship, then maybe think about what it is you need to pursue. It's the least you can do for your kids. And I think there's a chance you will rekindle things and be glad you didn't throw it away. There's a lot at stake when there are kids.[/quote]

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