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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This argument plays out constantly on every forum on DCUM in the guise of "If you disagree with me or question my precepts in any way, you are a troll."[/quote]

My point is, on the SN board you may want to stop for a second and consider whether your job is really to disagree and argue every little point, or be supportive and helpful. In my deleted post I gave more than enough information to get some good ideas, and I was not asking for my kid's diagnosis, treatment and prognosis to be critiqued. That stuff was totally irrelevant and unhelpful. [/quote]

Again, no one is arguing with you.  That's your interpretation.  Maybe you don't care about a diagnosis; maybe you just don't want to know.  Bottom line is since your kid is young and you're looking for advice on schools, people asking for more detail are trying to help you.

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I didn't get the sense they were trying to help. I got the impression they were mad I referred to my child's needs as mild and thought he should be able to go to a mainstream private, especially since he has had "behaviors". [/quote]

Yes, we got the impression you're in total denial. You're posting here, you're afraid your child can't handle a mainstream school with an iep, your kid has behaviors, got an iep, and we are telling you, behaviors are going to be a problem anywhere and your child's special needs are no more mild than anyone else's. Nobody knows at this point and for some reason your kid was impaired enough to get an iep. So someone evidentially disagrees with your assessment, and in my experience they resist giving those things out like crazy. I think you're defensive and combative. [/quote]

you're just going to have to trust me that he both has an IEP and mild needs that I realistically think are manageable in the right environment, possibly at a welcoming mainstream private. I appreciated the people who actually answered the question. But my thread isn't the only one that got this treatment today, fwiw. [/quote]

I asked the question and so did another person: if you genuinely believe that your child's needs are manageable in a welcoming mainstream private school (and note that I have no reason to doubt your opinion whatsoever, I am not questioning you AT ALL), why not post in Private Schools?  This is Special Needs.  It's hard enough to get special needs kids into Special Needs Schools.  If you seek a mainstream school, post on mainstream forums.  Because as a special needs mom, I really, truly, have no information about welcoming mainstream private schools for children with behavior issues, IEPs and mild needs.  I believe you may be hunting a unicorn.  (Again, just my opinion, and no reason to doubt your assumptions, just saying -- knowledge base at zero.)

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I hear you. But since my child does have SN and a history of distruptive behavior I was pretty sure I'd get torn to shreds on the private forum. I recall a really ugly thread there about "quirky" children. Also the extent of my son's needs/impacts is not clear yet, so I wanted specific feedback on schools good with SN and also SN schools for more mild needs. [/quote]

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