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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I have a similar son who's now 13.  Was the same at 7 as your son.

I would strongly, STRONGLY urge you not to bribe, reward or manipulate your son with punishments and artificial, unconnected "consequences."    Yes, you'll get the quick result you want by dropping a hammer but that's lazy, illogical parenting.  I mean, why not just hit him in the face if he balks?  That will also get the fast result you want.

Basic hygiene is simply a rule in your house.  You're not going to cajole or sprinkle him with cookies for doing what he should be doing as a functioning member of society.   Just keep doing a version of what you did today, maybe with less engagement/more detachment, over and over and over and over.  Show him you mean business and that, if necessary, you will assist him in bathing by first removing his clothes.  Take the lock off your bathroom door, without fanfare.

I promise you, he will get the message and the behavior will eventually become native.

Which is what you want, right?  Right?  You don't want a 20 year old who doesn't shower because his mommy isn't there to hand him a prize for showering anymore or take away his iPad when he doesn't.  You want a 20 year old who habitually showers because it's the correct thing to do.[/quote]

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