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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.
Look, I'm not perfect, my husband isn't perfect, my kids aren't perfect, but at least I'm giving my kids a good shot at success. The rest of my family never left the economically depressed region we grew up in and it's becoming clear their kids will suffer the same fate. They're trapped due to lack of education and low skills and perpetual poor decisions. I don't expect 40-50 year old adults to boil the ocean and modify their life, but it's disgusting to see their ignorant and lazy parenting dooming another generation. And they can't claim ignorance because they saw the way my husband and I did it and I'm always giving sage advice. It's honestly hard to even go home for holidays because I hate to see it. It's like watching a slow motion car wreck.[/quote]

You sound like a real peach to be around. There is nothing poor people take to better than someone yelling "BOOTSTRAPS! I did it and you should too!" And offering "sage" (unwanted) advice. [/quote]

I think this is true.  No one wants a know it all telling them how they should be living their lives.  If they are happy that is the important thing.

But if they are biotching about their kid's poor grades and you take the time to explain how to go about tracking their child's grades and progress...and they opt to just continue on same old same old, biotching the whole way.  That gets old.[/quote]

They're not happy.

And yes, that's one of a thousand examples where we think we're helping illuminate something that will help them prepare their kids, you think they're on the cusp of modifying a behavior, then you realize the parents don't change and it was all a waste of breath.[/quote]

I don't understand it.  I'm usually very grateful for any kind of helpful tips like that.  Not annoying common sense stuff that everyone should already know but legitimate - "Wow, I didn't know that!" - sort of info that makes life easier and success more achievable.

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