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Hmm. 
What's particularly difficult, and apparently impossible for you, is to step into somebody else's shoes and really understand why they're making these "wrong" decisions.
Either you'd find out that there actually is a good reason, or you'll have a lot more compassion for their foibles. Either way, you'll judge less!
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As in why do they make poor decisions over and over? Why do they live like our terrible parents when we all vowed to give our kids more opportunity? I've asked. They can't answer. I thought most of it was just not realizing a better life was achievable, or how it was achievable. But then things went well for me, so the lifestyle and status my husband and I were able to achieve was on display. Not only did it show them what was achievable, we would bend over backwards to help show them the way. But they haven't changed.

I asked them if they use the grading system for their kids' schools. They said yes. I offered to help and they gave me the passwords. The system showed they had never logged on. Not once. Even after I walked them through it, six months later, still no logins from them. Like W-T-F. How can they be like this?[/quote]
Because it takes work to be a good parent and to make sacrifices.  It's easier to be lazy and then blame someone else for your problems.[/quote]

They "want" success for their kids but in all honestly they act like it will fall from the sky.[/quote]

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