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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you have for a week and then you get a week off?  So you do get a good break every other week.  With some time off, you can rest and get ready for the next week.  Make simple meals,  Prepare them ahead of time if they take time to prepare.  Do the laundry, etc.  Then you can have time to pay attention to him.[/quote]

Having been there, it's not the break/lack thereof that's problematic - it's the constant routine changes the child is going through thats hard on the child, and in turn hard on mom.

OP, if you can I highly recommend spending 10 minutes a night (or morning, or whenever you have 10 or 15 minutes) doing an open ended activity with your kid and letting him choose it (but open ended - blocks, drawing, nothing with "rules" or preset expectations), and let him lead the activity. Don't ask questions, don't give commands. Comment by narrating what he's doing - it's cheesy but it works - "what a cool blue tower! I love the purple grass!" Etc.

I did this as part of a behavior modification plan with my child and it made a huge difference. It let me see DC in a positive way, doing something creative and fun, and in a leading role. It helped us make MAJOR progress in repairing our relationship when I was so fried by everything that was going on, and while it doesn't sounds like your relationship with your son is in bad shape, it could give you se solid time to connect during your weeks and give him something to look forward to. My child loved doing this, and it was some special time that we spent together, DC had no idea it was part of a behavior modification plan.

It will be ok. It is SO HARD and I've been there. My child is a few years older than yours and things are so much better now, but at 5 we were hardcore struggling. It was awful (I'm 21:29 from yesterday). [/quote]

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