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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry for what you're going through, OP. I can understand being annoyed at the things you mention. But death is really hard for *everyone* and, I'm sure you know, small things are going to seem larger to you right now because of your own grief. I think things like the funeral home room, and your FIL's behavior, while annoying, will pass with time. It's the kind of thing to rand on an anonymous online forum about, or to a good friend.

But is your DH supporting you as you grieve? Or is he MIA after you supported him? That may be the real issue here. You should be gentle with yourself, and DH, but he needs to be responsive to your feelings too. If he's not, perhaps you could find some positive and productive way to express that, not a blaming way like "you're so focused on yourself, that you don't do X" but more like "DH, I know you are grieving too, and this is a hard time for both of us, but in my grief it would really help me if you could do X." Condolences.[/quote]

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