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[quote=Anonymous] Grief is a weird thing.  I really respect when people go away and do it in private. Having to do the public grieving show with all the public tears and crying is just not my bag, so I see it is very dramatic and attention seeking. I know that's not the case, and some people are just having a hard time. But this would fester for me too.

If you have any good friend you can talk to about this just to blow off the steam and say the mean stuff and get through it please do. You will feel so much better.

When my mom passed my father would corner  eVERYONE and randomly come out with details about her passing and her death. Her death was sudden, and not the kind of thing you would get into with random service people, but yet he did. When we grieved-as adult children, he told us all that that was different we should expect a parent to pass away and get over it but he shouldn't have expected a spouse to pass away. (??) He overshared with everyone and even in grief group therapy  wanted to argue with the other grieving people about who felt the most pain and that they never felt the pain he felt etc. etc.  it was a real contest for him. Still annoys the shit out of Us and We know my mother would've been disgusted.

But being able to share the eye rolling with someone really makes a difference. [/quote]

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