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[quote=Anonymous]Definitely can relate to your feelings of not wanting to break any dreams of your daughter about your special love with her dad.  I gradually shared with my two children, 10 & 6 years old that I had previously been married, not so much as to not bruise their ideas about their dad and I, but seeing as they were growing up and they know their older adult brother and sister, it made sense to do so.  Since I'm interracially married, it was obvious that their brother and sister couldn’t have come from their father and me. ;)  Of course when the kids were little, I don’t think they thought much about it, but they're smart cookies, so I’m sure they wondered.  My taking my time and deciding every year (after they begin to ask questions about serious life topics, which was about when the older of the two was six or so) to share more and more about the fact that I had been married before was actually more about being sensitive to my husband’s feelings.  He comes from a family though not religious so to speak also has views about marriage, like most families I think.  In particular, his dad has what are considered very conservative views on marriage that cause much grief and issues for my husband, his mom and thus the kids and me.  All that said, I believe God’s Word, and it says the truth shall set you free.  And I think that when the truth is shared in lovingkindness, timely and with wisdom, it brings what’s needed to a situation.  It brings light.  So I think your daughter will grow up realizing how much more special it is that you and your husband found each other and were blessed to have her, even if it wasn’t the « fairytale » high school-prince & princess charming relationship.  You are an example that it can happen whenever and wherever. And that’s a hopeful message! And it’s so great to have such examples too for those of us who struggle to hold on, and still despite all we’ve tried end up divorced.  It show God’s mercy and that there can be a rainbow again.[/quote]

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