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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for the replies.  DH is upping the verbal abuse since I told him my plans and has been taking advantage of my guilt/insecurities by saying things like "how could you do this to the kids?"  and "you're ruining their lives."  It's a terrible situation.  I've never felt so alone.[/quote]

Very typical of abusers -- displacing the "consequences" of their own actions onto the victim.  Akin to saying, "I wouldn't have to beat you if you'd just shut up."

Don't engage.  Mentally you can respond to yourself that you are doing the best thing you can by providing the kids a healthy home.

Don't you have any family or friends you can tell who would be supportive?  Secrecy is an abuser's ideal environment to operate in.

Stay calm and positive for your kids.  Try to stick to a predictable schedule of custody.  Make your new home cozy.  Focus on your relationship with them and making time quality time.  You may be surprised that they feel relieved, as I'm sure they have noticed the abusive behavior.  Even if they don't label it as such, kids often know it's unhealthy and creates unhappiness. [/quote]

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