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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DS and I have lived in a 2 bedroom apt since he was born.  He is 12 now and doesn't seem bothered by it.  He has chores and he says that he is grateful we don't live in a bigger house b/c he'd have more to clean.  Lol! [b] Has your daughter specifically said she is embarrassed you live in a condo? [/b] Does she go to private school?[/quote]

She hasn't actually come out said that, but it comes off like she's embarrassed. She's in public school.[/quote]

Maybe it's time for a talk with her then.  If you don't know why she acts like this, it is time to find out.  [b]Maybe she is embarrassed that you are a single mother.[/b]  If she brings friends to her dad's house, it isn't as obvious since the stepmom is there too.  Who knows?  It's time for a talk.[/quote]

I never thought this could be an issue.[/quote]

OP again, I spoke with her. She said all her friends live in big houses like her dad and stepmom and she doesn't want her friends to think she's poor because she lives in a condo. I didn't think kids associated condo living as being poor...[/quote]

OP, big ups to you and your daughter that you could have an honest conversation about this. If it were me (and it has been...I'm an earlier poster with smaller and slightly shabbier digs than dad), I'd take it as an opportunity to talk about perspective. I.e., no dear, we aren't poor. We have a stable home situation, food in the fridge, appropriate clothing, bills are paid, a working car that is paid off, we have a little extra to play with (if you do). It's also not inappropriate IMO to talk about how our area tends to have a warped view of what poor is and what average is, and present a bigger picture.[/quote]

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