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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whoa there, OP. You failed to mention that he was unemployed. That is so stressful! When I was laid off I drank and ate salty snacks every dang day. I was heading towards a major depressive episode when I got a great new job.

You need to organize a time to talk calmly about expectations while he is between jobs. Agree on a division of labor. Don't just lash out at him. [/quote]

I've posted before about my frustrations on that front.  He is a SAHD after losing his job about 10 years and not looking any further.  When I engage calmly on expectations, he says I'm stressing him out.  He indicates that he is anxious but not depressed.  [/quote]

He hasn't had a job for 10 years?

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It was 2007 or maybe 2008.  He went back to grad school until 2010 or 2011. [/quote]

I remember you.

What else are you looking for DCUM to tell you?
You've been given all the advice. It's clear you don't want to leave him.
No one here has a magical answer. The bottom line is your husband does not want to change. Why should he's got a sweet deal.[/quote]

If all of the advice is "leave him" or "confront him," then yes, I've been given "all of the advice."  [b]I've been working on the latter, but the newest wrinkle is the admission of anxiety and the chest pains.  [/b]Thus, the advice I am looking for is how to approach him in light of this anxiety, a question captured by the title of the thread.  Not sure why you feel the need to post a rude response....[/quote]

The anxiety was obvious in your earlier threads.  As for the chest pains, call 911 every time.  Then he will either stop faking or get some treatment.

Your confrontation is clearly not working, and it's probably because you back down every time.  Stop having sex, stop doing things for him.  Say "I'm not willing to [_____] until you get treatment for your anxiety and depression."  And don't put up a brave facade and then give in.[/quote]

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