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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, most of the stuff people are suggesting to spice things up are exactly what I consider to be the monotony of parenthood - museum trip on sunday! date night once a week! The fact that this is all we get to do is exactly why this phase of life is so boring....

OP, if it is any consolation.... I remember before our kids were born that my husband and I were bored, in a rut, and felt listless most days. We had been together 12 years, had good jobs and friends, and liked where we lived, but wondered if this was all there was for the next 40 years. Like, waking up on weekends and working out or walking on the beach (we lived on the water back then) and going for brunch, and then we were home at 10:30am and like "okay what do we do with the next 10 hours until our evening plans?"  Our listlessness was one of the reasons we decided to have kids.  Now, for the last 5 years I have hated (maybe a strong word) waking up every day and having zero personal/fun/whatever time.  But then my parents took my kids for a week this summer and by the second day I was super bored again and wondering if this was all there was.

[b]Point being - I think life is somewhat monotonous[/b]![/quote]

I disagree with this completely.

I can't say my life is any more fascinating or novel than most people's, but I seriously can't remember the last time I felt bored or even restless. There's always something interesting to do or read or see or think . . . Or someone interesting to talk to or meet etc. I think I could find something interesting or new pretty much anywhere, any time.

For example 12 years in, I still seem to notice new and interesting things about DH, even though he's completely familiar in a technical sense. People - and life - are always changing! And more complex and surprising than they sometimes seem at first glance.

But maybe this is more of a personality thing?  Maybe some people need more obvious (and more overtly novel) stimulation to be happy?  My family seems to be the opposite. Our kids seem to amuse themselves and each other pretty much anywhere. They're easy that way. It doesn't take much for them to create fun or something new. DH and I have always been that way, too. So maybe it's genetic (need for novelty/stimulation) or  maybe it's environmental (modeling our attitudes and approach)?  But no one seems to complain about being bored. [/quote]

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