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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is there anything at home you're in charge of that he cares about?  He probably isn't taking care of what you ask because he doesn't care.  Find out what he cares about and assign him those things.

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Thanks PP and to all the other PPs. Your point gets to the heart of things though: I just don't think there are very many things he cares about. He has certain pet peeves - beds must be made and house must be de-cluttered and vacuumed. So he does that. But most other things, he just doesn't care. Plus he seems to have this insane 50yo learned helplessness. He loves the kids but just doesn't / can't invest any energy in anything beyond his own immediate needs and preferences. Our oldest needs braces, and my husband balked at the cost of the first orthodontist we saw. I told him fine, that was on him to do this summer -- get some other opinions, figure it out, etc. Not a thing has been done, and it will not be done unless I do it (and pay for it myself, separate finances are another wrinkle in this story.)

And yeah, I get that the list isn't incredibly awful (there's more than I wrote here, but obviously none of it is back breaking.) But I just want to be able to avoid being the sole person responsible for every single thing in life. [/quote]

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