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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should, but I will say his reason is bullshit.[/quote]

I agree you should but not because your DH is incapable of using an online calendar.  I agree with the pp that it is better for the person paying the babysitter/impacted to make the arrangements.  If the sitter had to cancel it would be better to go to you directly, not text DH on business travel to tell you, to have you make alternate arrangements.  Or conversely if your volunteer commitment was canceled that week or you were able to work something out with another mom, you shouldn't have to go thru DH to cancel the sitter.

Also in terms of responsibilities, when DH travels, I am 100% responsible for the kids.  If I want to do anything with my friends or attend a PTA meeting etc while he is away, I have to make childcare arrangements.  Even with my job, I have to make sure I can pick up the kids on time, I may even take some vacation time so for example I can work 7 hour days and comfortably leave on time to pick them up or do so I can leave early enough so we aren't eating dinner at 7:30pm.  That said, DH has a responsibility to lesson the burden of his travel, like not always traveling, leaving as late as he can to get there comfortably on time versus going out a day ahead, doing stuff with the kids before and after, asking his parents to help (if I agree), making sure we have the money to hire a sitter if needed (it isn't so tight we need his per diem money, but if we did I would hope that would factor in) , doubling up on driving a carpool so it won't be his turn to drive the week he is away ...things like that.[/quote]

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