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[quote=Anonymous]I think it would be better to take the long view and think about what your goals are.

If you can afford to pay for applications, I'm not sure what making her pay for them out of her (presumably limited) funds achieves. What are you trying to accomplish here? Are you afraid that she will apply willy-nilly without adequate consideration of the pros and cons of each college? Then why not just set a limit on how many applications she can submit? Or why not set a limit on how many applications you will pay for--whatever seems reasonable to you--and then tell her if she wants to apply to more she will need to pay for them?

If you are going to make her pay for them, it seems to me that you have to be okay with the possibility that she will decide to apply only to a couple of colleges in order to save money. That might be a very penny-wise but pound-foolish decision. So I'd be careful about setting up this kind of "incentive."

If, OTOH, you want her to become accustomed to managing her money, making a budget, making decisions about how to allocate limited funds, etc., wouldn't it make more sense to, say, require her to manage her own spending at school? Have her use her own savings and earnings for her day-to-day expenses and for buying books and supplies. This will require her to make a budget and try to keep to it. Or have her pay for her own cellphone, so she makes the decision about how much she can afford, staying with data limits each month, etc.

What are your goals, OP? Make sure your parenting decisions are helping you get there.[/quote]

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