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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, my husband could have written the same thing.  After having two kids, the press of work, errands, childcare, etc. just took over our lives.  For him, sex was something relaxing and rejuvenating.  For me, it was another chore to add to the list.  What I didn't realize was that for him, sex = love.  He needed it in order to feel loved and appreciated.  I got my emotional needs met through all the things you mentioned - his participating in chores, childcare, hand-holding, etc.

Once I realized what it meant to him, it was motivation for me to change.  You CAN get your marriage back on track.  Try the 30 day sex challenge, or at the very least, read His Needs Her Needs, and do the associated workbook.  Worst case scenario, it will help you understand what you need in a future relationship even if this doesn't work out. 
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Hi,

Thanks for the response.  I have shared this with her, did the love languages thing etc.  I will look at the two resources you mentioned, thank you for the recommendation.  Out of curiousity, how did you make the change once you realized what was going on.  I think my wife knows because, well, I have told her directly :)  Did you have any tools that you used to help get over all of the things that you listed?[/quote]

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