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[quote=ThatBetch][quote=Anonymous]Getting divorced is easy these days.  Sticking it out, honoring your vows--that's hard.

[b]Women are financially self sufficient and no longer need to stay in a marriage for financial security.[/b]  Women and men have been lying and cheating in marriages since the dawn of time.  Now, it's just easier to say, I'm not putting up with this crap anymore and walk away.

Historically marriage was never about love.  It was about joining forces, creating security, producing off spring to carry on the family.  Now that marriage is dependent upon love, it's much harder to keep that going.  Love can come and go over the years and what you loved about someone in your 20s may not be the same qualities you would look for in your 50s.

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Historically, marriage was about protecting and increasing power and wealth, specifically that of the male. More women today have their own jobs, credit, etc. and can have some agency in their decision to marry, and to stay married or not. Some women don't. Women still make less than men, and there are still codified power structures in place that work against women being truly equal. Childcare and other domestic work is still seen as feminine, and largely valueless, and that dynamic dramatically reduces a woman's economic mobility. But it's better for us than it was for our grandmothers, and their grandmothers. We can own property now! We can vote! And sometimes, we vote to leave.

Of course, if your partner has already checked out, that decision was made unilaterally and there really isn't much you can do. Trying to convince someone who wants to leave you that you're worth sticking around for is the ultimate betrayal of self. Let them walk.

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