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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you want a spouse who is home.  Understandable.  However if you divorce, you will have no option of this spouse being home.  Because you wont be married anymore.  So you will have to find a new spouse who you will love, loves you, loves your kids, treats them well, etc. and doesn't travel for work.

Is this what you ultimately want--to find a new spouse?  Easier said than done.

Or do you want current spouse to be home more?

Well, it sounds as if that isn't an option at this time.  Your spouse has told you that this is his job and this is what it entails.  He has told you that things aren't going to change while he has this current job.  So you need to either accept that he travels and works a lot, or not.

Have you tried changing your expectations of your husband?  I know you want him to not travel so much, but that isnt an option right now. So instead of expecting things to change, why not change the way you deal with it?  You say that you can't count on his being home/cant make plans.  Why are you even trying to plan on his being home then?  Move forward as if he won't be home.  Get a regular housekeeper, regular babysitter, etc.  I know that it isn't the same as your husband being home...but he has said that his being home isn't an option while in his current job.  Don't be bitter about something you can't change.  Instead, change your current reality so that you are happy in it.

Or, tell him that its either his job or your marriage.  If he wants to stay married to you, he needs to get a new job that will allow him to be home more often.

Seems to me, these are your only options.[/quote]

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