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Mirroring happens. It's when couples or friends spend time together and pick up each others quirks. It could be a bad habit, like smoking or drinking too much. It could be shared language or verbal quirks ("ummmm..."). Fashion or things like that could also be exchanged. In your case, I wonder how much you reference your body or weight. How much is this mentioned? He could have absorbed the cues in your family and this is what you are responding to now.
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OP here - this is very true. We've definitely picked up on each others' phrases, likes, dislikes, et cetera. As for my body, I've always been very happy with it. I was 125 after puberty for ages, which was a bit chunky on me, and it never bothered me. In college I went up to 135 and you could see it on my face (I didn't notice it at the time though, because I was still fine with myself). I dropped down to about 112-115 nowadays and I still feel fine with myself. I never complain about being fat or wanting a slimmer waist, but I also don't pump it up like "oh yeah, I'm so hot, I lost 20 pounds, go me" ever. The weight loss was also slow and natural - I never set out to lose it or worked out more than usual. This is great for keeping self-esteem, but unfortunately I also can't empathize with people who hate themselves for being "fat" because I've never had those emotions myself.[/quote]

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