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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stealing a line I read: don't stay married for the sake of your kids. Work on making your marriage better for the sake of the kids.[/quote]

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My parents  "stayed together for the kids" and while from a financial impact it was probably better from an emotional impact it wasn't a good idea.  Seeing your parents argue about everything, dad not come home some nights and stay at a "friends" house, eventually separate bedrooms etc was terrible. They divorced while I was in college.  Now they are cordial but for awhile it put a chill on things to have them at the same event.  It's not like I'm having more than one birthday party for the kids so I would invite both and they had to work it out.

The crazy thing is I don't remember my parents ever going to marriage counseling. I honestly think there was a point that things could have been saved but both people would have needed to be willing to change.  I just don't see how you can stay in the same house, stay in the same room, still have sex and intimacy with each other, not argue constantly, while not being super detached, and co-parent effectively for the next 15-16 years (youngest out of high school) without efforts to improve your relationship from where it is today.   [/quote]

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