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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Similar question here. My baby is only three weeks old and we are on a strict bonding schedule. My mother is the only one besides DH and myself who is allowed to handle the baby. MIL has been allowed to see the baby through the window of the front door. She has been good about bringing over meals and my husband goes out to get the food and give her our laundry to wash. Now she says she wants to come inside and see the baby. I am breastfeeding and tired, so I don't want anyone else in here other than the cleaning service my in-laws sent over. I think my husband is weakening toward her, but I say, my baby, my rules. Please help.[/quote]

Hang in there, OP. I was in your shoes. Once I heard the front door squeak and then my DH out of the blue said he'd watch the baby for a while so I could get some sleep. Yeah, right, as if! I knew who was waiting silently in the hallway -- MIL. Unfortunately I was so sleep deprived I couldn't think straight so I let him give her a 3 ounce bottle of pumped breast milk and fell asleep. when I woke up she was in the co-sleeper sound asleep, with a bit of lipstick on her cheek. I'd recognize that color anywhere. I told DH I felt betrayed that he had not only let his mother see the baby but also kiss her on the cheek but he swore he had only fed her and changed her diapers and put her down to sleep, and that she had accidentally scratched herself. I know that's impossible because it took for freakin ever to get her to sleep and that was with a boob in her mouth, so how could she have fallen asleep like that with a bottle? They have a history of gaslighting in his family so I didnt' fall for it.

Anyway, that was 20 years ago. We're still in therapy for the betrayal and sleep in separate rooms. Lately i've been getting these pangs of wanting another baby, though. Crazy, right, given his crazy family? What should I do?[/quote]

Hi there, Judge and Jury OP here. Tsk, tsk. You were off your game when you let sleep get the better of you as a postpartum mom. Next time, use a surrogate so that you won't be in a weakened state again.

Next time you go to therapy, be sure to talk about MIL's Borderline Personality Disorder.[/quote]

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