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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do they do it? I work for a non profit and one of the directors has 5 kids ages 4 to 16. Another woman program manager has 5 kids under 12th grade. They don't have nannies. I am a 46 year old single woman, and no kids, no husband. I don't see how these women have the time for their family or their professional life. [/quote]

Why don't you ask either of them how they do it?  I think some women find motherhood easy and are naturally good at it.  I am a mother of 3 and wouldn't put myself in that category.  I get stressed out managing it all while several of my friends seem to thrive with all the chaos and juggling.  Why the judgment, OP because it sounds like you are making one.  Women with 4 kids shouldn't work?  Women with 4 kids cannot be effective managers or directors?  Women can't do it all?  Should I also assume that because you are single and have no kids that you probably have way to much time on your hands and spend a lot of it poking your nose in other people's business?[/quote]

Hi.  I have two.  Personally I would ask the same question--not because I'm judgemental of women I see with four who are making it work, but because I genuinely feel like I am at my limit and I sometimes wonder what I'm doing wrong and how other people manage.

In my case the complicating factors are that my two kids are close together, I don't have local family, and my husband is in medical residency which is extremely inflexible and has BigLaw style hours, with a very low salary.  Also, I'm an introvert and not good at chaos.

Two women at my office have four children each.  Both are very successful professionally.

One has a SAH husband.  Her career is flying but it sounds like her kids are not doing well--at least twice recently I remember her saying that one of them went to the hospital after some accident happened at home.  She mostly seems very stressed out and unhappy.

The other woman started having kids very young, so her kids are spaced quite far apart, which probably makes it all more manageable.

I don't think there is a magic solution.  There are only so many hours in the day.  Either you have outside help[/quote]

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