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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wear the baby and go to the park with them. Baby will benefit too from being worn. [/quote]

Way too hot for that, IMO.

OP, you've gotten some good advice.  My oldest will be five this Fall and we have a newborn (and a middle, who will soon be three).  I think you need a mix of approaches: a new routine, which you discuss with her in advance and often; regular mommy-ODD time; extra treats; patience.  Four is a tough age anyway, and this transition is a big one, particularly when she's out of her regular routine.  My eldest is having some trouble with the new addition, too, but I think it would be MUCH worse if she weren't keeping with her preschool routine (for which I am endlessly grateful).

You absolutely deserve some one on one time with your newborn.  Having multiple children doesn't mean the youngest always gets the shaft.  You have a nanny, and your ODD will be well-cared for.  If you can set aside some time each day or a few days a week for her, that will likely help a lot.  I also think talking about what will happen each day is HUGE at this age.  Mr. Rogers has an episode about it and the importance of kids liking to know what will happen (come to think of it, the theme may also be reprised on Daniel Tiger, "when we do something new, let's talk about what we'll do").  Both my kids, but especially the older one, do much better when we tell them in advance what will happen, especially when it's a change in routine.

Good luck and hang in there!  This too shall pass.[/quote]

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