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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. it is a set of grandparents, they are retired and like fresh food, cooking, and several grocery shopping trips a week.

I just stay out of it but I have told my husband that they need to start paying for some grocery shops, we're not even around for breakfast, lunch and snack times. it is behavior I would never impose on anyone, including my adult childrens' families. In a lot of ways it is grating, especially since when we go to their house with our family of four we do our own grocery shopping and take everyone out to dinner.  No quid pro quo whatsoever. And we'd certainly replenish things we used up!

Grandpa eats everything in sight, big snacker.  So in their house there are no snacks.  Staying with us is like a big free food festival for grandpa and grandma tries to restrict it to healthy things - 3 types of nuts, 8 types of fruit (cherries, apricots, peaches, plums, apples, granola, blueberries, oranges, bananas), 8 types of vegetables, 3 exotic cheeses, "real bread" and one carton of fresh OJ a day. Every three days.  And they won't get a rental car.  And the kicker is they both turn around and say "oh we better hurry up and eat this all or it will go bad". And the other kicker is when we take them to visit more family in the area for a meal, they'll ask to go grocery shopping and drop their money on fancy foods to bring there (to impress other people)!

They have OK money, we have OK money, it is the principle. My husband doesn't help either since he plays both sides trying to please everyone, except I'm getting disgusted.[/quote]

If it was a financial hardship for you, I would be understanding.  But, you can afford it, and these are your beloved elders, and they eat too much fruit?  Can we all chip in to send you to charity/hospitality/being a decent person bootcamp?[/quote]

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