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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife and I have now gone months without sex, for a variety of reasons -- growing apart, clinical depression, etc. Now it seems getting our sex life back on track is much harder than I would have thought. My wife is low-drive to begin with. I feel I need to aggressively, decisively initiate sex and just make it happen, but I fear rejection, further distance and there is definitely an awkward tension. We have had a couple of discussions about sex, which are never easy, but at least we did talk (a month or so ago). Advice?[/quote]

You said it yourself: aggressively, decisively initiate sex. That is exactly what you must do.
If she "rejects" tonight, you j[b]ust calmly ask her to plan her day tomorrow to ensure enough time and energy for sex tomorrow night.[/b]
It is not a rejection, it is an opportunity to book a next day appointment.

Stop having discussions about sex. THAT is awkward, way more awkward that just having sex.[/quote]

I disagree with this.  When DH would say that to me that registers as just one more thing someone wants from me at the time of day when I just want peace and quiet and to be alone.

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Exactly.  PP, how about you arrange *your* day so that your wife has energy left at the end?[/quote]

This would have gotten my XH laid 4-5 times a week instead of once a month.

My SO of 4 years somehow understood this without my asking. Or he's just a considerate human being who doesn't want me to exhausted every day whether or not he's going to get an orgasm before he falls asleep.[/quote]

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