Reply to Really hard week with foster daughter

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "Really hard week with foster daughter"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]The tantrums were the worst when our (former foster, now adopted) daughter was overtired. She got much more tired (and then wired) than other kids her age. We have children by birth, infant adoption, older child adoption, and foster care. This DD was in elementary school when she came to us. She has a terrible MONTH to 6-weeks every year around the time that she was removed from her birthfamily by the police. Very traumatic. When the days lengthen in the early spring, something in her is triggered deeply. It's been 14 years. She is in her twenties now. It still happens and we still provide extra support and constant contact during that time.

Tonight our 9 year old was weepy because of a fear of being homeless when she grows up. I think of all the fun summer-y things she did today and how gleeful she was. But there is a shadow there, a space within her where fear, trauma, shame live. It's heartbreaking because she has been homeless. She knows what it is.

Almost all of my kids who have lived through trauma have an experience similar to "sundowning" with the elderly. They become agitated in the evening. It's just too much, too overwhelming for them to cope sometimes.

Hugs.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics