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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it possible for a 30yo unmarried couple to live together and co parent a 6mo baby without being in a relationship? What are the pros and cons to a setup like this? What are some alternatives? The mother currently lives in the fathers family home (he does not own the home nor does he pay any bills) but she could technically afford an apartment (it would be really tight though). [/quote]

You are in a relationship. Not having sex doesn't mean there's not a relationship. You navigate the relationship you have on the terms you set out. If this is what is best for the baby, having two present, involved parents who don't fight around, then go for it. The obvious cons to this is that 1. proximity breeds contempt (so if you're on bad terms now, watch out), and 2. sex is definitely on the table (it's easy for one person to gravitate towards a romantic outlook, which could make it awkward for the other). Hell, it make result in a marriage! Who knows? More details about the current condition of the relationship is required to weigh in more meaningfully. How long have you been together? Was the baby planned/wanted? Why the break up? Why isn't marriage an option? The finances? All of that.
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She was hoping for marriage and he definitely promised her a marriage, but he has not proposed and she's tired of bringing it up for fear that it's awkward and she's nagging - if he wanted to marry her, he would. And he hasn't.

They've been together about 2 years, and the baby wasn't planned but they were happily pregnant. She didn't want to get an abortion. Now that time has passed and there's no movement on marriage or settling down in their own place and they sleep in separate rooms and he's really defensive when they talk about the future/his career/moving out, she knows it's time for her to move on romantically. He doesn't work but could freelance if he wanted to, but he's a SAHD. They had a big fight a few months ago, but are very amicable otherwise. He is still affectionate towards her in little ways, but she has started to pull away.[/quote]

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