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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you call him on it in the moment? If he's struggling to remember to not do X, I think it's worthwhile to say something right when it happens. [/quote] Not usually, no. Usually something like later that day in a private moment (but not before bed). The thought being that it's a more open conversation in a separate moment. But maybe that's misguided.[/quote] I think waiting for bigger structural conversations is good, but for specific examples it works WAY better to call people on it in the moment, especially if you can do so in a light hearted way, which is generally easier in the moment because you're reacting to juts that one small thing rathe than the whole big issue of which that one thing is a part. its also better in the moment because that simply works better for effecting behavioral change to keep the cause (his behavior) and effect (your hurt) temporally connected. [/quote]
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