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My children trust me. Like, a lot. I never lie to them, and I let them make most of their own decisions. Yup, it can be a pain. But, when I say, "This is how it's got to be right now" they deal.

Most nights, I ask what they want for dinner. Sometimes, I prepare what I know they need. They don't make a fuss when I give the reason (more protein, too much pasta this week). My parents were huge on "because I said so" so I bend (way too far) in the other direction.

If carpooling is the best decision for your family, then letting DD know she has to adapt is a strengthener. She's helping the family. It's very different from "your feelings don't matter."

Sometimes adding the "why" is all you need.

DS knows he can't go to camp if he doesn't take the bus. To help make it easier for him, I also pack a cool book as a surprise for the ride. I load up at the library over the weekend. So far, so good.

You don't want to make your child suffer, but you also don't want to rob her of an achievement. So, I get why you're asking the question. Only you know what's best for your little one. Think it through and trust your gut. You won't regret a mindful decision, whichever way you choose.

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I [b]think this is great. I would add that DDs anxiety over carpooling at that age stemmed from being car sick and not knowing how to communicate to the driver that the AC needed to be on high or window rolled [/b]down[/quote]

Oh, poor thing,  I would have died 1,000 deaths if I had to ask my friend's Mom for this when I was in elementary  school.  [/quote]

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