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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am frumpy.  I'm almost 40, a mom of 2 young kids (baby and toddler), and I have become unfashionable and frumpy because I don't have extra time to spend on my appearance/maintenance/shopping.  I've also aged a lot since 35 and have lost my looks.

My weight is not the issue--I'm still the same size I was in college (size 6).  However, the issues are:

1.  My hair--I'm 30% gray, brunette, and if I don't color every 5 weeks my roots are hideous.  I don't have time to go every 5 weeks, I usually go once every 4 months, so I always have roots.  It's 3 hours in the salon for cut and color so I don't have a lot of time for this and I never color at home.
2.  My hairstyle--I can't find a hairstyle that looks good.  My hair always looks awful.  It's fine, naturally wavy and frizzy, and does not hold a style well.  In the summer it's a frizzy mess.  I don't have time to style so I let it air dry and it curls in an unflattering way.
3.  My clothes aren't that stylish because I don't have a lot of time to shop.  I have a few okay items.
4.  I have an ugly face.  I have a large, unflattering nose, very pale skin, strong features, and I just look harsh in general (the graying hair doesn't help).
5.  Makeup--generally I don't bother because I don't have time.  I look much better with blush and lipstick though.

I feel down about my appearance and frumpiness and I see so many moms who look so put together and stylish and I have no idea where they get the time for this.

Any suggestions about how to de-frump and look cute and stylish again?[/quote]

1. & 2. Hair: Make an appointment for a cut, color and keratin treatment. In four weeks when the gray grows out, use a root touch-up kit. Four weeks later, use it again. Then, make your salon cut/color appointment. This way you're only going in every three months. The keratin treatment will help the frizz. Ask your stylist to help you find a good wash & wear style if you won't make time to style it in the morning.
3. Go to Nordstrom and use their personal shopping service to help you pick out some contemporary, stylish items that you'll wear frequently--a great pair of jeans, some interesting topics, some easy dresses, comfortable but not frumpy shoes (no Danskos!!).
4. & 5. Pale skin and strong features do not equal ugly! Go to a makeup counter or Sephora and ask for an easy five-minute look. Powder foundation/BB cream, mascara, blush, tinted lip balm. Buy the products and then USE THEM. Do you not have the time, or are you not willing to make the time? 
Bonus: Set aside 15 minutes each weekend for some maintenance grooming. Pluck eyebrows, trim/file nails, coat of clear polish if you feel like it, whitestrips on your teeth.

Honestly, if you want to make a change, you have to make the time for it. You keep saying "I don't have time; I don't know how other moms do it!" but the difference is that the other moms are making the time. Can you wake up 10 minutes earlier each morning to put a little more effort into your appearance? [/quote]

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