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[quote=Anonymous]I am friends with three exes - one of them is my ex-husband with whom I have a 7-year-old child, one is a short-term fling from 15 years ago, and the other was a 18-month relationship that ended right before I met my ex-husband when boyfriend moved out of state.

My ex, I am "friends" with because I have to be. Truthfully, if not for DD, we probably would not ever interact.

My fling from when I was 18 is actually a good person and a close friend. He is also friends with my second husband. We had sex two or three times 15 years ago, and chose not to turn that experience into a relationship despite liking each other as people..

The other one is more complicated. We don't see each other often. Our breakup was not because we stopped caring about each other but because our lives were going in different directions. When my first marriage was falling apart, I found myself wishing that our lives had not gone in different directions or that we would have tried harder to make it work. Ultimately, we did not try to get back together because life has moved on. His wife is someone I knew socially back then, and she's a good woman. They seem happy, and I'm happy for them, but I would be lying if I said that there were not times in the last 10 years when I regretted our break up. That makes it hard to be "just friends" and so we keep our distance.

It sounds like your new squeeze is a decent sort. It doesn't sound like his relationship with this woman is inappropriate. I think in this situation, since he's acknowledged that some people will feel weird about it, you get to ask him - one time - about the context for their break up and their current friendship. If the answer passes the smell test, I would tell him that you'd feel more comfortable if you met her, like his other friends, but leave it at that. Try not to equate all men with your sociopathological ex. The vast majority of them are delightful and not evil.[/quote]

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