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[quote=Anonymous] I think taking the sting out of your obvious caregiving role is the place to start. You're not "a control freak," you're managing a kid the way he needs to be managed according to the doctors. Name calling and characterizing you as a big ol' drag ("It's summer.") is a nasty tactic to avoid dealing with the issue of DS's needs. I'd start there. Then, DH goes to the next doc appointment to hear for himself what NEEDS to happen. Then, you two figure out your individual responsibilities and screw the whiteboard. It goes down in ink, a Sharpie preferably. What's his is his and, yes, you listen to the PP who advised a complete hand off. No oversight, no pitching in to help---none of that. This is default parenting in the extreme. When the kids turn to you, that's one thing. When DH also turns to you or abandons you to all labor and decision making, that's just plain shitty. Take a day. Make a plan. This is untenable. [/quote]
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