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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know from experience what this can be like.

I think there are a lot of good suggestions here.[b] I especially like the one about finding another, older woman to help out[/b]. Give her the language to ask -- "Excuse me, this man is bothering me. He's following me/harassing me/won't leave me alone, and I need help. I'm 11 years old."

And help her learn to react loudly and clearly so that bystanders can hear her -- "Leave me alone." "It's not okay to talk to me like that"

And yup, believe her. Let her know if she doesn't feel safe, it's fine to go into a store or another public place and ask for help. [/quote]

I would make sure she has a phone and knows that she should call 911 if she is scared and a guy won't leave her alone.  She can go to a safe place or a safe person: mall security, a cop, a store clerk, a hospital, a doctor's office, etc.[/quote]

She is, ALAS, going to have to start thinking proactively about how to react.
1. She needs to be aware of her surrounding always.  True for everyone, but extra-true for those who are smaller or weaker than likely predators.
2. She needs to know that this behavior is bad, low-class, and otherwise reprehensible, and does not in any way indicate that she did anything wrong.
3. As a result, [and as others have said], she does not owe these oafs (or worse) anything--not politeness, not an answer, NOTHING.  As for feeling that someone is following her--she should cross the street, stop in a store, whatever.  She should NOT worry about "hurting their feelings."  A decent man will either not notice or will understand that no matter how upstanding he may be, she doesn't know him.
4. I like "Leave me alone." But I'd add "Stop talking to me." I don't care for "It's not okay to talk to me like that."  But of course it will do.  
5. When she is in a familiar area or on a familiar route, it might be good to take note of places that would do for stopping in, though pretty much any reputable business or office will do.

PS Gentlemen do not ogle women in public at all, much less comment.  [/quote]

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