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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, women need to feel desired and desirable. We are ruthlessly judged by impossible standards, and we internalize that. You need to learn to love your body as is. That husband who told his wife to lose 10 pounds? Tell him to go fuck himself, because if he can't accept and want you as you are, he doesn't deserve you and you don't want him. You are right to feel hurt. Tell him it's like you suggesting it would help if he'd grow another inch on his penis. See how sexy that makes him feel.[/quote]

Really? I am not sure what to do now, but this seems like it will just escalate it. [/quote]

Please ignore PP's "advice." And you are right -- this will not help anything.

Aging is tough. Your body may not look like it did when you were young and childless, but now you have children. In nature, there are no free lunches.

That being said, if you think you really look bad, and can't get over it, there's always surgery. It's easy for people to say "don't worry about it," but life is short and it's your body to do with as you please.

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That's the terrible thing. I don't think I look really bad. I certainly am not the same as I was 15 years and 3 kids ago, but I think I looked decent. I exercise, eat right, wear make-up, color my hair, etc. I am never going to look like I did now that I am approaching 40. And I am not going to get better looking! Price of getting older instead of dying. And I am ok with that. I cannot believe my spouse is not. He certainly doesn't look the same as he did. I am not willing to get surgery, particularly because I have young children. Plus I kind of want to (but won't) tell him to eff off. He isn't some George Clooney look-alike and I am a pretty good wife. [/quote]

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