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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My FIL is very very vocal in person and on Facebook about his conservative beliefs. He is recently posting every few min something hate filled about Islam. His most recent upload stating that not just extremist but ALL Muslims are hateful and Islam will destroy the west. My husband says don't respond but I can't not say anything.

We've sat quietly as he tears down our current president, makes brass judgements regarding womens rights and abortions, is racist towards anyone who doesn't look or believe like himself, spreads fear and hate towards refugees and now Muslims.

I don't even have words for how angry I am at him and how he could think these things. I just want to yell - you make me ashamed to be a part if this family and you shouldn't even call yourself a Christan. ( he always uses that as an excuse....its the Christian beliefs)

My father's side is Muslim. My mother's Hindu. I was raised Christian.  I now align myself with do good and be a good person.

Sorry of this post is all over the place. I'm just so upset. Part venting part asking for tactful responses to his hate. [/quote]

OP, as usual with this kind of issue--where someone like you has a nervous breakdown because someone else that they know expresses opinions that threaten to puncture your insular thought bubble--the problem is really yourself, not him.

Your background is all over the place ideology wise so you probably really don't have strong ideological roots and haven't really formed your own independent strong world view or philosophy yet.  Do unto others yeah that's a good general ethical one which I agree with, but you haven't actually thought about what it means to deal with the real world.  Do unto others is a great generic philosophy UNTIL the terrorist's machine gun is pointing in your face, someone you know, or if it hits too close to home.  A lot of people get radicalized conservatively because of the emotional impact of these kinds of events as in Orlando.  They actually empathize with the victims in a visceral emotional way, not the abstract over educated political liberal way of "let's blame it on the gunz"!

Look at your own background--father Muslim but married a Hindu.  Raised Christian (most likely as some kind of compromise by your parents.)  Did you ever actually ask your father why he married outside his faith?  Or your mother?  Did you ever actually ask them why you were raised Christian rather than Hindu, Muslim, something else, or nothing?

Don't you have any curiosity about your own upbringing, why your parents did that?

You'll start to understand others better when you work on understanding yourself better first.  That starts with actually having some curiosity about exactly why you're a Muslim-Hindu-Christian.[/quote]

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