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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I both work full time with two kids. I'm a VP in a consulting firm and he is a senior attorney in a government agency. I work from 7-5 -- he gets kids out the door in the morning, and he works 9-6 -- I do pick up. I also travel for a few days in a row once or twice a month, which means he has to do drop off and pick up which is a pain for him. We live in Arlington to minimize commutes and have a biweekly housecleaner. We don't outsource anything else other than aftercare and, I guess, drycleaning. Plus side of living in Arlington is we can't afford a huge house or a huge yard so there's not that much to take care of. Kids are in extended day, which closes at 6:00. Hardest things for us are sick days, esp. when both of us have meetings that can't be cancelled. Luckily both of us can usually manage to work from home with a phone/laptop if needed. I respond to emails at night and usually work a half day (at least) every weekend. Kids do day camps for all the school holidays/teacher work days, etc.

We have to use vacation time to attend school events but manage to take a few family trips (usually to visit relatives) every year. The kids mostly do activities on the weekends although as they get older they are starting to do more stuff during the week (like honors band), which is hard--a lot of racing to pick them up, eat dinner, go to rehearsal, etc. I'm glad they are not in sports, not sure how we will manage that if they want to do something with afternoon practices or games. We also don't have time for a dog, although I'd like to get one.

It is a slog but at my job, going part time basically means standing still in terms of career advancement and I don't want to mommy-track myself. (Yet.) Maybe at some point--a lot of other moms I've worked with have talked about being around more when kids are older, like in middle school or high school, and that actually makes sense to me. So maybe I'll dial back then. Or maybe I'll find a government job that at least doesn't require the travel or the weekend work, which is probably the difference between being busy and being totally stressed out. [/quote]

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