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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here.  I disagree with PPs.

I do believe this is a sexism issue.  Men don't frame things as questions if they are making actual statements.  It's ridiculous that women are expected to play these games.

If you are a manager, yes, it's important to seek input.  But you can be direct *and* be inclusive and seek input.  In fact, I prefer managers that do that over managers who play the passive-aggressive question thing that leaves me wondering, um, so are they really asking me (as in I have a choice or a say) or are they subtly telling me to do X,Y,Z?  That management style is confusing.

Unless you are genuinely asking a question, don't frame it as a question.

But do seek input.  Ask people what their thoughts are or if they have any ideas.
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This. You shouldn't have to play word games to protect the fragile egos of your subordinates. [/quote]

Agreed.  In fact, I think this thread is pretty dejecting.  After all, so much of the advice here is to "soften delivery" by indirect communication.  This is the very type of communication that study after study shows undermines women's authority and power in the workplace.  Here's an idea: let's try to advise all these (presumably) guys that are so uncomfortable with s direct woman in the workplace.  Improving their ability to hear and act on direct communication from s woman is the real resolution here.[/quote]

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