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[quote=Shineshelly]Hi there, I am in exactly the same boat as you! However, I have been married for about seven years and am 31 years old. Like you, I *assumed* I would have children at some point (by now), but many opportunities have come and gone (health issues etc), with the ultimate answer being 'no, for now'. I totally understand the outside pressure from family/society etc, but the fact is that some people are not meant to have children, in the same way that some are not meant for marriage. It might be helpful to really examine your motives or talk with a counselor to ensure you are making the right choice, though.

I don't know where you stand with God or religion, and if that impacts the some of the pressure you are feeling at all, but for me, the biggest struggle has been understanding if I am going against my faith in some way if I do not bring children of my own into this world. "Be fruitful and multiply," is a verse often used as a command from God to have children in the Church. However, this is by no means an instruction to individual couples, but rather, to the population as a whole, so the human species doesn't die off. I do believe children are regarded as blessings, however I have come to the conclusion that there is no command for a woman to have children from a biblical perspective. That has been a very freeing revelation to me and I wanted to pass that along to you in case you wondered the same thing.

Simply put, motherhood is a gift. Some women have it, and some do not. I believe God can always change hearts and minds, but that is His business and no one else's. [/quote]

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