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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Being a strong father figure isn't about being hyper masculine.  It's about being a role model for your children, showing them how to be a good person and how to treat people.  Going camping doesn't make a man more of a man.  [/quote]

This is OP.Sure, I understand that. I love my dh because he is not a bonehead and is instead sophisticated and well read. Now I also know that my dh does feel like he missed out. His dad was NOT "macho" or outdoorsy at all. He never played a sport with my dh, worked out, went hiking or anything like that. He also, like my dh is a homebody and does not have any male friends!! I don't think this is healthy. I keep encouraging dh to go out and socialize with guys.  My dh says he was so sheltered as a young boy that he started watching football in college with his GF. Until then, he couldn't even connect with other men about sports!

[b]I really want to create a healthy, male positive household and raise well adjusted and NOT wimpy boys![/b][/quote]

So if your DH doesn't take your sons camping or watch or play sports with them, they will be "wimpy"?? There are so many things wrong with your OP and views on gender I don't even know where to begin.  And it seems crazy to have to point this out, but here goes:  there is SO much more to being a man than camping, sports and other traditional gender stereotypes. How about focusing on the positive attributes your DH brings to your family instead of focusing on what you think will be lacking?  You never know - he might get interested in some of these things if he has sons of his own precisely because he feels like he missed out as a child.  But even if he doesn't develop an interest, he can still provide a positive male role model for your children of either gender even if he isn't outdoorsy or athletic.  [/quote]

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